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OverviewEdit

Gender is a unicorn! Not really (maybe), but our friend up there helps us break it down into its base components. It is important to know that gender isn't any one thing, it is all those things added together to make our identity. It is also important to understand that each one of those individual components (gender identity, gender expression, etc) exist independently from others. That means we can't know someone's gender identity based on their sex assigned at birth. We can't know someone's sexuality based on their gender expression. They all influence each other and added together make up our gender, but it is less like combining five colors to get one and more like painting a picture with five contrasting colors to create an image of who you are!

Before we get into it, we'll define the difference between sex and gender, because they are often used interchangeably. This is also how we'll define them here for the purposes of educating and they may be used differently in other places or contexts.

  1. Gender: This is our holistic sense of identity based on our biological sex, gender identity, sexual attraction, romantic attraction, and gender expression. Our gender is how we self identify, understand our body, and navigate through society as a member.

  2. Sex (Biological Sex): While many people think that sex is determine solely on genitals, chromosomes, or reproductive system, it is actually a complex spectrum that has many different components as made self evident by intersex individuals. One component of someone's biological sex is their gender identity, which arises biologically and within the structures of the brain. This means that people who identify as female are biologically female and those who identify as male are biologically male, even if that isn't consistent with the rest of their anatomy, because you can lose your reproductive system, you can't lose your brain.

  3. Reproductive System: There is a clear binary in male and female reproductive systems, but they don't define what our biological sex or gender is, because we don't stop identifying as male or female when they stop function, we lose them or if weren't born with them. It is okay to acknowledge a person who identifies as a man can have a female reproductive system, just know that it doesn't make them any less of a man.

Gender IdentityEdit

This is our brain's internal sense of what our biological sex should be. Gender Identity is what gives us our sense of being male, female, or something in-between or outside that binary. Gender identity, like everything else here, is a spectrum that can be expressed in many unique ways. It is also an immutable characteristic which is believed to develop as young as three years old.

It is important to note that we all have a sense of gender identity, just like we all have a sense of balance. Then just like with balance, it isn't something we really think about until we find ourselves off balance. This means that transgender people often feel a sense of being out of balance their entire lives or until they can correct their bodies through identity reclamation, hormones, or surgery. This is also why it sometimes remains invisible to cisgender people, because a cisgender person's gender identity aligns with the sex they were assigned at birth and they often never feel off balance. One thing to keep in mind about gender identity is that it doesn't change, but sometimes it takes us a while to either accept it or figure it out. Some people will be aware they are not the gender they were assigned at birth at a very early age and some people take until puberty or longer to realize it. Some people feel life devastating pain because of the mismatch between the brain and body and others don't. While there are many ways for it to express in people (depression, anxiety) and for them to deal with it (hormones, surgery), there is no right way, there is only a right way for each individual. That means someone who was assigned male at birth and has known they were female from a young age, isn't more valid than a person in the same shoes who took longer to figure it out. On the same token, a person who's had surgery isn't more of a woman or man than a person who hasn't, because the way our brain identifies is more important than anything we are born with or have had done to our bodies.

It is also important to understand that someone's gender identity doesn't say anything else about them, except what their biological sex should be. If a person had a female gender identity, that doesn't mean they will play with dolls as a kid, wear a dress as they grow up, become a nurse as an adult, and give birth to two kids. It only means that they will prefer female pronouns and for people to accept them as female. As for the rest? They are free to live their life, play with what they will as kids, wear what they do growing up, pursue a job they want, and decide on what is right for them as far as parenting goes. They are not limited because of their gender identity into having to behave, think, or dress in certain ways.

(Unfortunately there is racism and sexism within society that tries to dictate and limit us based on those things we can't control such as race, sex, sexual attraction and gender. While we are still fighting for equality and to be treated equal and to be given the same chances to express ourselves and live our lifes to the fullest as everyone else, many people may still face discrimination or hostility. It should just be understood that while people in society sometimes try to limit other people because of their gender identity, your gender identity never limits you as a person!)

Myth I get it! These people think they’re male or female. Gender is just a social construct anyways.
Fact Gender, as we know it, is a social construct, but it isn't only a social construct. Gender is how we define and put meaning to things that already exist. While aspects of that can be subjective, like the kind of clothes we wear or the roles we take in a given society, our biology never is. That is to say our gender identity is a component of our biology, it naturally arises in the structures of our brains as an internal and innate sense of what our sex should be. Which means everyone is biologically the sex they identify with.

There, however, is a clear biological binary in reproductive systems between male and female, which helps create a useful classification when talking about reproduction. It falls short in defining sex or gender, because when people lose their reproductive system in some way or another, they don't stop identifying as the sex or gender they previously did. A person, with a male gender identity, XY chromosomes, but born without a penis, doesn't stop identifying as a man.

Gender Identity Labels

Gender ExpressionEdit

This is the socially defined behaviors, dress, or roles ranging from masculine to feminine. Where gender identity is internal, gender expression is external. There was an unfortunately long stretch of time where society said females had to be a certain way (receptive, emotional, empathic, submissive) and males had to be s certain way (assertive, logical, stoic, dominating). But the fact is that anyone can express themselves in any way. Feminine doesn't mean female and masculine doesn't mean male, so a person can be a very feminine male or a very masculine woman or a mix of both. Gender expression, like gender identity, is a spectrum and doesn't say anything about our gender or our sexuality. It is simply the gendered labels to how we like to dress and act.

A great example in understanding that gender expression can be removed from gender identity is Casey Legler, who is a female, male model. She has a purely masculine gender expression, but she identifies strongly as a woman.

That said, sometimes transgender people will dress and act more feminine or masculine to fit into the gender they identify with. This isn't always because they want to express that way, but rather they have to so people will accept them or so they can get treatment.

Myth Okay, but if a man dresses up as a woman, then they identify as a woman right? Drag queens always refer to themselves as she after all?
Fact Our gender expression doesn’t have to say anything about our sex, our gender identity, or who we are attracted to. A woman who always acts and dresses very masculine and has a masculine associated occupation like construction worker, may still identify very strongly as a straight woman. A Drag Queen is only a performer and their stage name and identity play a part of a woman, but they don't identify as one personally and outside of costume. A transgender man, for example, is a man with or without clothes. They are man, even if they are very feminine, because what matters with gender identity is our own sense of what our gender is, not what we prefer or who we act as people.

Gender Expression Labels

Sex assigned at BirthEdit

When we are born we are given a classification of male, female, intersex based on what our genitals more closely resemble at birth. It is important to know that in reality we are merely born as babies and it takes some time to grow up to realize who we are.

Myth Someone’s sex is obvious and based on if they have a vagina or penis or the presence of a Y chromosome or not.
Fact The reason we say assigned-sex-a-birth is because that is all it means. People are not born men or women, they are assigned those categories on birth by a doctor that makes a guess and will use surgery to make it fit a binary if it doesn't. Which may even harm healthy tissue and sexual function of intersex people in the process..

It is important to know that sex is a spectrum and there isn't always a clear divide between male or female. That it is possible, if very rare and unlikely, for people with XY genetics to develop as females and carry a baby to term.

A lot of people like to try to define sex by genitals or by ability to reproduce. While there is a clear binary in reproductive system, if we consider that people can be born without a functioning one or otherwise lose it through accidents/cancer, then it would be dubious to define someone's sex purely on that. Imagine if a woman had to have a hysterectomy, then afterward had to get all her documents to say neutered for her gender, that she wasn't welcome in female spaces anymore, that she had to use a special or other bathroom, and was told she was less of a woman. Nobody deserves that treatment. A trans woman may have a male reproductive system, but that doesn't make her less of a woman.

The only consistent things across all genders is how we self identify.

Assigned at Birth Labels

Sexually attracted toEdit

Sexuality refers to who we are sexually intimate with and there are two basic components; who we are sexually attracted to and how we want people to be sexually attracted to us. An example to highlight this would be looking at a straight trans-woman. This person is straight because she identifies as woman and is sexually attracted to straight men. Even if she were sexually attracted to a gay man, she likely wouldn't want to pursue sexual interaction with them, because they're not attracted to her as a woman nor do they validate her as a woman. That means she will likely pursue only straight men, the same way gay men would only pursue other gay men, and lesbian would only pursue other lesbians.

But it isn't so cut and dry like that. That is just to give you a basic understanding of sexuality and why gender identification is important in it. The truth is sexuality is a spectrum, like everything else, and who we are attracted to and how we identify can vary widely and be inside or outside of a binary.

It is also important to know that our sexual attraction is independent from our romantic attraction, but both follow the same lines. That means a person can be sexually attracted to certain people and emotionally to others. It means they could not have any strong sexual desire, such as with asexuals, and not because of a defect, but because of natural variance!

Myth A person isn't gay unless they're dating a guy, otherwise how could they even know they aren't confused, especially if they haven't had sex with a woman yet? Asexuals are probably just not confident or insecure, I mean some of them masturbate, so clearly they have a sex drive.
Fact A person's sexuality, like with gender identity, is an internal and immutable sense we all have. We, however, live in a culture that for a really long time said everyone had to be a certain way and we were taught everyone was a certain way. Because of that, some people have taken longer than others to realize what their sexuality actually is. It isn't that it changed or that it can change, but it is something we sometimes have to figure out. An easy way to flip the script is to ask straight people why they haven't had sex with a person of their gender, to see if they weren't really confused and actually gay?

Asexual is the absence of a sexuality and there is a whole spectrum of that, which we will get into in the next section. It is important to know that sex drive is remove from sexuality. That masturbating is a healthy function of our body that doesn't need to say anything about our sexuality.

Another thing to keep in mind with sexuality is that it has a lot of catching up to do with gender. While we are beginning to understand the vast arrays of genders out there, we still struggle to define a woman dating a pre-operation trans woman as a lesbian relationship. We also struggle to not call a lesbian transphobic for not being attracted to trans women. Sexuality goes a lot deeper than an attraction to man, woman, or everything. It is an interplay of so many things that have more and less importance to people, such as, body type, gender identification, reproductive system, gender expression, so on and so on. The important thing to know is that it doesn't make you transphobic to not like a certain set of genitals. It does make you transphobic to say the reason you aren't attracted to someone is because they aren't the identity they claim they are.

Sexually Attracted To Labels

Romantically attracted toEdit

Our romantic attraction refers to who we want to be emotionally intimate with. That means who we want to be companions with, who we want to let into our lives, then spend and share that life with. Even though sex is removed from romantic attraction, the physical intimacy of holding hands or being close can still be a big part of the relationship.

Typically, people who are asexual, will still have a romantic attraction to people that parallels that of sexual attraction. That means an asexual can be straight romantic, gay romantic, panromantic, etc. So a woman who is a straight romantic would be romantically attracted to men, a woman who is a lesbian romantic would be romantically attracted to women. Which means there is still a gendered component to romantic attraction.

MythSo, an asexual person can only really date other asexual people right?
FactRelationships are complicated, no matter who you are or what you identify as. What people expect from and want from a relationship can differ widely. Unfortunately we lived in a very sexualized culture and people often feel like a relationship isn't real unless sex is involved. It even goes so far as to make some people feel like they aren't really loved, if their partner doesn't have sex with them.

But, the truth is many asexual people have very deep, playful, and rich relationships with sexual people. While it will be a different kind of relationship and definitely not one for everyone, it can also be amazing. That while most asexual people won't get sexual pleasure from their partner, they can still give their partner sexual pleasure.

Sexually Attracted To Labels

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